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Social Distancing Without Isolation 150 150 admin

Social Distancing Without Isolation

In the United States, we are experiencing a national emergency over the Coronavirus pandemic.

One of steps to prevent the spread of COVID-19 (along with things such as washing your hands for at least 20 seconds, disinfecting surfaces around your home or work, and covering your mouth when you sneeze or cough) is social distancing.

For a period of time, it’s wise to avoid crowds as much as possible, put some space between you and others and stock up on supplies so you can avoid crowds as much as possible.

I think it’s also worth mentioning now, that it’s not a time to isolate completely.  We still need to communicate, and fortunately with technology we can do that easier than ever before.  Phone calling, FaceTime, Video conferencing, social media, etc all allow us to communicate without physically being in the room with the people we are communicating with.  Lets use these resources to take bolder actions.

Call your family members.  Call your friends.  Make sure you’re on the same page.

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Locking On To A Vibe

Has there ever been a time where you experienced an unforgettable moment?  Where you remember the energy being amazing?  Maybe you…

  • hung out with a group of people who inspire you or
  • went to an event or
  • had a celebration or
  • went to a workshop or
  • traveled somewhere or
  • a performed in some way or
  • had an “aha” moment where life changed

Know that at any point, you can recreate that feeling.  Your outside circumstances don’t have to be in those particular ways for you to feel those feelings.  You can recreate that vibe within you now.  Close your eyes and put yourself back in that moment.   The more you can recreate that vibe here and now, the more your circumstances or life situation must change to match that feeling…that vibe.  Play with it.

I know when I have one of those moments, it’s a real breakthrough because I can lock it in, so if I ever fall way out of alignment I can hone in on that vibe again.  Personally, I’m working on locking those feelings in daily, so much so that it becomes normal to have them and experience them, and they aren’t so out-of-the-ordinary.

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Abstinence from Boring Mundane Jobs

It’s been a while since I’ve had a Job.  I quit my last one in June 2018. My life has contracted in many ways and expanded in others.

People want to escape the boring, uninspiring jobs, and I get that.  I have been there too many times to count.  But the problem could be that…on some level you want that.  You want the boring mundane job because it’s predicable, it’s safe.  It’s a comfort zone for you.  Don’t look at this as bad.  It is what it is.

What might work instead is to get out of your comfort zone while you’re at your job. Face fears at your job one day at a time.  Ask for something you wouldn’t normally ask for.  Make this a daily practice at your job.  If you find yourself comfortable at your job, do something out of your comfort zone.  Go out of your way to clean the kitchen.  Ask for a raise.  Ask someone above you if there’s a way you can take on more responsibility.  Maybe start taking classes on the side or research a way to make the company better and talk to someone about implementation.  Travel to a new city during your vacation time.  Attend a workshop!  There’s an infinite amount of ways to get out of your comfort zone.  You’ll know when this is happening because you’ll feel the tingle/butterflies in your stomach before approaching your job.  Accept the job as it is and don’t fight it.  Whatever you resist persists.

I might even venture to say, you’re not getting out of your comfort zone outside your job either.  Use this time to swing the pendulum towards facing your fears so your world can expand.  You’ve got to be abundant and free on the inside before you’ll see it on the outside.  If you’re giving into your fears, you’re not free.  You’re a slave to your own fears.

The job on the outside is just a reflection of your own inner world.  Be free now.  The more you are free now, the freer your future will be.

 

 

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Things I like

In no particular order…just some things I think are cool.  Things that are me.  I’ll keep adding to this list as I find out more.

  • Creative Expression
  • Passive income
  • Football
  • Basketball
  • Piano
  • R&b Music
  • Rap Music
  • Battle Rap
  • Skill Building
  • Apple Products
  • Personal Development
  • books – self help and biographies and how-to / physical books / audio / ebooks
  • online video conferencing (Zoom)
  • blogging
  • writing
  • creating courses
  • technology
  • Apple products
  • traveling
  • workshops
  • free trials
  • singing
  • 12-step programs and sponsors
  • nutrition
  • outsourcing
  • road trips
  • competitive card games (spades / VC / Texas Hold’em Poker)
  • pool (competitive game)
  • swimming
  • innovation
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Level-Up Moments

Have you had moments where you felt like your life really leveled up?  Are there any patterns you see in these moments?

For every level-up moment I’ve experienced, I can trace it back to something I embraced that was new for me.  Also, through taking in new input, it helped me see old things with a new perspective.

A Few Level Up Moments

For example, a moment when I leveled up socially was during a workshop.  I had been trying to solve this problem of making money in an inspiring, heart-centered way all alone.  This wasn’t working.  Instantly after meeting people who were making a living in a heart-centered way and connecting dots, things started shifting quickly in a positive direction.  I started making passive income every month after my first book was published 3 years ago (right after the workshop) and still continue to make a liiiiiiitle every month now.  This changed how I looked at finances.  I had been serving a company to earn money before…and that means I served one entity.  But with the book I published lots of people benefitted – in a smaller way, but the volume of people I served was waaaay larger and I loved a lot more of the process. From then on I saw how the solution to this problem was more of a social problem than a how-to, step-by-step, information / mental problem.  It made me look at the old way of doing things with a new perspective.

Another level up moment is when I joined a 12-step program, and left a lot of my life up to my sponsor.  It was beautiful.  From the moment I got the sponsor, health wise and weight-wise my life was better.  I ended up losing 110 lbs from that moment.  Again…the answer for me was social.  They told me exactly what to eat and when and how to satisfy my hunger to be able to sustain it to lose weight and have a normal-sized body.

I had to embrace spending $500 on a workshop and traveling to Las Vegas. I had never spent that much money on a workshop and never traveled to Las Vegas.  That was new for me.  I had to embrace joining a 12-step program (I actually didn’t know it was a 12-step program before joining) and having a sponsor who told me what to do.  That was new as hell!

Now I’ve seem to come to a place where I’m being called to embrace more input.  Even with this blog…it’s not receiving much traffic now, but i know the steps to get it off the ground because I’ve repeatedly gotten things off the ground before.  It feels like I’m being called to get more of my work/art/ideas etc into more people’s hands, to put it out there in a much bigger way, and invite more feedback and be able to handle and process it consistently.  That will be new for me in so many areas.  It requires me to face many fears, but it seems unavoidable if I want to take my life in a direction where I want to make my living through creative expression.  It is feeling like one of those level up moments.

Back to You

What is calling you?  Is there something in your life that you want to level up?  Embrace the new as much as possible to spark a level-up moment!  New experiences or new travel destinations or new vacations or new workshops or restaurants or new habits or new trials or new input or new physical exercise or new groups to join or create.

You might find old, mental conditioning rising up in your mind to enhance your doubts and fears, but suspend the disbelief for a while.  Don’t block the energy that is leading you to new.  Follow the breadcrumbs, stay curious and follow the energy where it wants to flow on step at a time.  Keep consulting with the present moment and allow the next right action step to come through.

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Keep it Light

Since writing on the subject yesterday on finding energy and eliminating the things that bogged you down, I wanted to talk about this in conversations.

Like attracts like, so if you’re attracting light, fun, and meaningful conversations that’s an indicator on where your own vibe is.  Maybe these are conversations where you all are in the moment and going with the flow and being conscious of where the energy wants to go.  Or you’re extracting good lessons and memories from the past.  That’s why it’s light.  It isn’t negatively charged with the heaviness of the past.  Sometimes any positive talk of the past will bring about a comparison to now in people who are looking to bring more heaviness into this moment.

If you’re not attracting light, fun conversations or light and fun people, you might be attracting more serious, downer, conversations filled with lots of the past.  Serious people attract more serious situations.  Maybe there’s anger and/or bitterness here, or regret or depression, etc.

If you’re feeling these things, they will show up in conversation…and a person who is a match for that vibe will be in resonance with it.  You’ll find it easier to attract more of that energy.  This might not be what you want if you were to consciously choose what energies you want around, but you might also be used to it.  It might be familiar, so it’s easier to attract.

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Heaven On Earth

I can’t tell you what your heaven is or when it is going to come or how it will look.  However, I can tell you that you will know when it does.

You would think that it’s some instance where you’re pleasured out.  Where you’re experiencing all these different pleasures you think you want…but that’s not how heaven showed up for me.

The instance for me happened when I was at a spanking party.  I looked around…stunned…and I asked myself, “could life really be this amazing?”.  At that moment it literally felt like heaven on Earth.  And get this – I was living in my car!

It wasn’t just that moment that inspired that feeling of heaven on Earth.  Imagine a cup…and all the previous insights and experiences I had within the past 2 years had been adding water to that cup.  Before attending that party, the cup was about 3/4ths full.  Then when I went to my first spanking party, the cup just started overflowing with water.  That’s what it was like.  That cup poured over to Solving Problems Socially.  I was feeling so great, I felt other people had to experience this, and that I could help them get there because I had been on the opposite side.

Heaven came from finding members of my real family.  Not members who were biologically / genetically / blood line family, but people from all over the world who aligned with deep parts of me. I met people who aligned with the part of me that wanted to do heart-centered work and make it sustainable.  I met with people who had addictions and issues with food and/or weight gains/losses. I met people who were deeply into spanking.  These parts of me were previously suppressed and when they started to be expressed then I found my new, aligned family members.  What I’m working on now is being a good container for that heaven.

What are you suppressing that needs to be expressed?  When will you express it?  What if you knew the part of you that you suppress needed to be shared…like it was your purpose to share it.  And to help other people express it to!  What if…the expression of the parts of you that you normally suppress is a prerequisite or a key to unlock connection with your true family.  Family that has been through what you have been suppressing and can help you along the journey.  Family that can offer you support and answers and can relate.  Family that can bring whatever it is you’re suppressing out of you to express fully.

You can feel heaven on earth now.  You don’t need the outside to match it at this moment, but you can use your imagination and feel what it would be like to have all the deep parts of you supported, acknowledged and encouraged.  Feel that feeling with as much intensity as you can.  The more you feel this feeling and think about it on the inside, the more your reality must shift to match it on the outside.

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Pushing Past Your Limit

I remember in high school I wanted to try football.  I did well academically, but always wanted to test myself to see if I could have some semblance of athleticism in a bigger way than basketball in nearby parks.  So I took put football on my high school schedule.  It was off-season football, so it was mostly training for the upcoming season.

I sucked at the beginning.  Badly.  Struggled through most of their routine exercises, and lost all competitions.  I got hella embarrassed to the point where I started coming after school to practice and get help.

I remember having 1 completely crazy coach during that time that stood out.  He’d say some pretty ruthless things to people, and would often get a lot of pushback and backlash for what came out of his mouth.

One day, we went out to find out our lap times – how fast we could run one lap around the track which was a quarter mile.  When it was my turn, I might have gone about half way when I felt I couldn’t keep running, so I started walking.  Keep in mind I genuinely felt so tired, I didn’t think I could run anymore….until…

I see him with a super angry face, marching over to me.  He then proceeds to scream in my ear.  I was feeling so embarrassed.  I don’t know what he said…but I do remember running at that very instant again.

It was a pretty out-of-body experience.  Where did this energy come from to run?  I didn’t think I had anymore left in the tank, but apparently I did?  I remember running in a very surreal way…thinking “I’m not supposed to be doing this…but I am”.

I’ll never forget that day, because it was where I really felt like I could push past my limit.  All it took was a little embarrassment.  Who am I kidding?  It took a lot of damn embarrassment.

Pushing Past Your Limits 

Is there a limit you feel you have?  How can you enlist help to push past it?  Maybe you don’t need a crazy coach (or maybe you do?) but is there any way you can get a coach or a mentor to hold your feet to the fire?

You feel differently about yourself after you push past a limit you had in your mind.  It changes how you view yourself, and it’s a damn good feeling.