Feel The Embarrassment to Help
Embarrassment is commonly looked at as something to be avoided. When you share embarrassing stories, there’s a possibility people can take those stories and keep them and have a “one up” on you. I’ve seen people be vulnerable enough to share their embarrassing stories, only to have someone else bring their embarrassing story back up to bring them down a notch. This is cheap. It’s tacky. And what that person who brings it back up doesn’t realize is how tacky and cheap they look doing it. It says more about them (the person that uses it to bring them down).
When I started sharing my story in my 12-step program, it made me not care so much about situations like the one mentioned above or anything else negative that can come from being embarrassed or sharing embarrassing stories. I saw the meaning in my embarrassment when people would connect with me after I shared, and call me on the phone. I saw how it changed the people around me for the good. If nothing else, it raised awareness. My sponsor would tell me “just remember…it’s not about you”. It was about a person I could help. I saw the importance of helping just one person. That person can create some huge ripples…and you never know who it will be.
Share your failures. Share the things that don’t put you in such a great light. Share your embarrassing stories. Be willing to be publicly embarrassed. You’ll be surprised at the people who are watching to learn and grow and raise their awareness. I think you’ll also be surprised at the different ways it can raise you up as well.